Vision is the ability to look at one’s future to decide where you want to be in a selected period of time.
Then, you choose a path while taking positive action and thinking affirmative thoughts.
This may not speak to everyone, but I thought I would share some ideas on how to make your life more satisfying, in case it has some areas that need work. The beauty of what I have learned is that a simple adjusting of the way one sees the world can have a powerful effect on what enters and exits your life.
The interesting thing is, you have to take total responsibility for where you are. Whoa! That’s heavy. Maybe it takes saying it again in a different way to help it sink in. No matter what has happened, no matter how you might feel victimized, you have to ask yourself, why did I think the thoughts or take the actions that would specifically bring this into my life?
If you approach the hardship as a victim, then you will tend to stay victimized, but if you approach the hardship as if it is a learning lesson, then you can enter into an active partnership with the experience. It will seem easier, then, to take proactive steps to improve whatever negative thing happened so it doesn’t happen again because you are in control.
Asking “Why is this lesson important for me?” will help you take control.
Another way to look at it is to wonder, “Why did I ask for this lesson to be brought to me?” Depending on your personal beliefs, you may want to ask questions of your Supreme Being or the concept of Universal Energy or whatever you turn to as something bigger than you. You might even ask or question in prayer, “What is my version of What’s Bigger than Me trying to teach me?”
In the 1980s, there were many counselors who specialized in working with dysfunctional people who had grown up in dysfunctional families. I am sure that many of those excellent facilitators are still around today, it’s just that I don’t need to reach out for somebody to speak with like I did then.
But, what I’m getting to, is that one time I mentioned to the lady who was helping me that I was sick of getting calls from bill collectors and having the telephone shut off. She thought I was short of cash, but, no, I explained, I was “too busy” to pay the bills and “just didn’t think about it” until I went to use the phone and it was without its dial-tone.
Entertaining suggestions from friends, family and facilitators can help you focus on your future.
My counselor’s next comment floored me. “Why do you feel a need to withhold their money?,” she said. What an ODD concept, I thought. Why in the world would she say that because I would never intentionally withhold someone’s money? I didn’t see myself in that role at all. But, then as we discussed it, I grew and began to understand that there was no in between, my bills were either paid or they weren’t. If I wanted them to be paid, I would choose take steps to pay them and if I chose not to take steps to pay them, then I was in effect, withholding their money.
Sometimes talking to a family member, good friend or counselor creates a shift in thinking that is very helpful for the resolution of a problem.